“I bid you farewell….” by late Mrs.Omodolapo Yetunde Olotu-Jagha(1971-2013)

I bid you farewell…………………………………………..

I am grateful to God that I will rest in His bosom and I am more grateful because I have always wanted this opportunity to speak my mind even unto death. I guess you are surprised that even the dead can air an opinion; in my case I really wanted to because I knew that God was preparing a place for me and that is where I will be.  Do not weep for so long because I found eternal peace in Him. The very peace that has eroded me in about twelve years of my God given years (at the time of this writing I am forty-one years of age and I have been married for twelve years). This is my story………
I am Yetunde nee Olotu as I am fondly called by my immediate family in Nigeria but here I am being referred to as Omodolapo Jagha as named by the love of my life.  Now, I  am Dolapo GoodGod , the surname I adopted when I realized that I no longer have a husband who will be there for me. The very man I should expect to be the Master of ceremony at my burial, the man you think would miss my departure the most but unfortunately not. I believe my estranged husband is glad that he is now free from the bondage called marriage.
Noble Jagha, I hope you feel so happy now that your prophesy to Maryam Hassan and other girlfriends of yours that I will soon die so you can marry them is now fulfilled. The truth is that my body may be dead but my hope of glory in heaven is constant as God lives. I may not be here again but I am so sure you will never find anyone to love you the way I did…… You were my first love, the very man who deflowered me but turned his back on me years after that I was not good on bed  (not sexy enough for you), I was not good at cooking but I managed to learn and cook your local meal of Starch and Banga. He said, “I was so paranoid” because I complained that you are only comfortable making phone calls in the car and returning home at midnight. You finally abandoned me and the children in December, 2012 after all the mental and physical abuse I suffered from you. You could not face the wrath of law as I got a safety and protection order against you because I was afraid that you would eventually take my life. While you lived with us, you were of no use, as you were not readily available to do your matrimonial and fatherly duties.  How painful it was to take the twins to school walking all the way from Ongar to Little Pace, sometimes after getting a chemo. Even when I pleaded with you to look after the kids when I have appointments at the hospital you refused. Thank God for the Irish government (HSE) that provided me with home help (Margaret), my cousin,  grandma Odelade,  Sola and S. Bimbo (my wonderful sisters in church), my friend, confidant  (Gbemi)  who stuck to me like a sister, she is known in all our kids’ school as their guardian because you were not there. You found solace in your numerous, “your attraction” as you referred to the choir leader and probably your new sizzling romance Sheila Luxembor whom you kept my kids with without my consent. I hope she told you I rang her and made peace with her when I did no wrong (Yeah, I did this to secure my heaven).
Hhhhmmmm……….the Lord is my strength.
Oti, how do you feel after physically and mentally tormenting me? You can now be happy that “the living corpse” (as you often referred to me) in your home has finally gone to be with God. You no longer have to hit me or pounce on me anymore. In death I have forgiving you because I loved you but I hope you are able to forgive yourself…….? I cannot forget in a minute how I felt so let down that I took to my heels and sought refuge in that sister’s place and later on at the women’s refuge. I am sure your defense is that I died as a cancer patient but I believe I could live a day longer if you were there for me……  I went through the pains of Cancer lonely! Rather than supporting, you rejected me. Isn’t marriage meant to be for better or for worse.….? I hope when I remember how childish you were for taking the boot you bought for me and returning the wrist watch I bought for you I can peacefully sigh a relief for leaving this cruel world. You were so mean to me! Oti, you were really mean to Emmanuella too. How could you ill-treat your own children because they are girls? I have all the horrible text messages you sent to me documented; psychologically you killed me before my death.
Pastor Jagha, a man of God! The church has failed in their duty to help you from fallen, they have pampered you for doing wrong in order to save their face and invariably they have failed me. Church is meant for sinners irrespective of their position and as such no one should be above chastising. I hope after my demise our father in the Lord would have enough evidence to correct the wrong of my beloved husband. No wonder my so-called husband was able to trick the church who also lured me to take off the safety and protection order and stop me from getting a separation that I so long for. On my dying bed I made copies of telephone bills showing his immoral communication with a worker in the church  at Athlone but there was still no sufficient evidence……… The church that should be a place of refuge became a place of torment for me. I hope you can also enjoy your new relationship with Sheila, I learnt you told some of your church members that I asked her to look after my kids because I was sick in the hospital whereas  she keeps malice with me just because of your sex romp with her. Oti, you left my children at home for two days and went to sleep with your girl friend in Athlone. You also asked my under-aged children to travel on bus to Athlone by themselves while I was on the hospital bed. I loved you but you failed me and you know it.
The bitter pill that I have to swallow is the fact that I can no longer be there for my lovely girls .Their beloved father despised them so because I could not make a male child (you claimed that I was unable to have a boy child because I did not drink from the anointing oil which you asked me to drink and that makes you detest me too). I am deeply sorry that I did not drink it; maybe that would have spared me of some lashes.  Our lovely first daughter at age twelve said, “Mummy I don’t think I will get married” This is as a result of the abuse that my child suffered from our marriage… If you are a loved one and you know my daughter, please help me say to her that marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured….. I want her to be married and make me proud!
Oti, why do you always run away from your problems rather than resolving them?  You left Nigeria because of your involvement in fraud at the bank which you never resolved.  As I speak you owe my mother a sum of one million, two hundred thousand naira which you have no plan to repay.  How come you had issues even with your own sibling in the U.K to such an extent that you poisoned her…..?  That is the more reason why I was so scared for my life.   You are such a difficult person, the community welfare officer , our GP, Olive at Hartstown , the Child protection unit at Finglas and our father in the Lord tried their best to advise you to no avail. You were not ready to make me happy.
Noble Jagha, you wanted me dead as soon as possible.  I still wonder why you refused to come with me for separation times and again when I asked that we should part ways. I know your intent may be to make gains from my years of labour at Anpost. I worked so hard to pay the rent, to feed us and even paid some of your fees to pursue your MBA. Despite all my effort you were never satisfied, even on my sick bed you demanded for money…..I hope you are happy that you have them all and you can feed your numerous girlfriends with them.  I plead with you and I besiege all that reads this to appeal to you that you do the following after my demise which is of utmost importance (I hope you will heed advice for once).
1.       That you may put in trust/fixed deposit for my daughters all monies raised from my burial and benefits from my workplace having paid all expenses incurred and other personal loan taking from my friends during my period of illness. My daughters need to know I care for them even in my grave.
2.       That, I have a will in which I have named the executors to my will and joint custodians of our children. The lawyer will keep you posted in due course, please adhere!
3.       Oti you can also pay any money that you owe from the monies before the account is opened.
4.       Kindly pay my mother the money you owe her too before the account is fixed.
5.       I want my mother to be a part of my children’s life, please don’t deprive her.
6.       Oti  make peace with my family and friends (stop making enemies out of the people that helps me).
Oti, it may surprise you but I have to let you know that I have the password to your facebook account and email accounts!  How come I am not on your friend list? Why did you also refuse to tell me the cause of your mother’s death? I know she died of cancer! Hmmmm
Oti does not love me; he could not stay with me in sickness despite the fact that I loved him more than my children. Hhmmmm
I hope my mother can forgive me for not heeding her advice in respect of my choice of marriage and I pray that God gives her and my father the fortitude to bear this irreparable lost.
It is too late to cry when the head is off.
Thank you for not leaving me alone in my time of troubles and needs my sisters, thank you sister for going to Olive’s school, please follow up with Emmanuel as planned, I don’t want my children to suffer. I am so worried …..I am tired.
I don’t want you people to go, don’t leave me alone. I want someone to sleep here with me tonight.
signed.
Omodolapo GoodGod
27/04/2013.

SOURCE: Dare Lasisi
Photo Credit: Supradex
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100 thoughts on ““I bid you farewell….” by late Mrs.Omodolapo Yetunde Olotu-Jagha(1971-2013)

  1. This is a sad and convulsive display of apathy by a man who made marital vows. Where ever you are now Yetunde, may you find eternal rest in the bosom of the lord.

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  2. You mean somebody can be this callous and mean to a fellow human being he calls his wife? Well am not surprised though, I wonder what he preaches to his congregation. Falsehood of course.

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  3. I use to know u sister Dolapo but never knew u were going via this becos u are always happy.rest in peace dear sister.i cried when I read this but am glad u are resting in The Lord .i don’t want to talk about the cruel things u went via but the God most high will judge.

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  4. Too bad and very sad to hear this story.Very sad that this sister died unhappy as it very obvious.But please dont pass any judgement without hearing the other side.If all this sister said is true then wait and see.Dont forget, GOD IS JUST.

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    • God will judge all of us by our actions, attitude, all we have done to our fellow humanbeings. I pray for Yetunde for the good Lord to grant her soul eternal rest. I also pray for her aged parents and the children left behind for God to grant them fortitude to bear the irreparable loss of a dear daughter. I feel so bad that this can happen to a living being. The man is very very calous and may God not punish him according to his sins.

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  5. What a sad story. It is a pity u died very unhappy! I pray ur daughters find true family members that will fill in d gap n help them see a better side of life n love! I’ll keep praying 4 them. Continue to rest In d bossom of the lord!!! Amen!!!!!

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  6. i know someone who knows the husband well, he was a fraudstar .callous and womaniser though he initially behaved like a christian.

    i am not on this site to judge, her letter made me weep. rest in peace. glad you forgave him. one advice, please marriage is not a do or die affair, once it becomes physically abusive, emotionally abusive, kindly seperate for a while. only Jesus christ died once and for all for us all. dont die on account of any one.

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  7. I wept bitterly that this could happened to somebody that is very close to me.I thank God that you knew christ before you died.Rest in peace in the bosom of your Lord..May God almighty be the father and mother for your children amen.

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  8. What a pathetic story. You know u still look beautiful and peaceful as ever. Yetunde hhmmm you are love and cherished even till death but papa loves you more. Oba adake dajo. Judge of all is still on the throne. Adieu rest in perfect peace.

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  9. so sad i wish she could rise and teach her daughter that marriage is enjoyable if you find the perfect personnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

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  10. May her soul rest in peace, you are better than the living. it is like a movie and most of the stories contradict itself.
    I think this should be between the lawyer and the immediate family, this publication only worsens the situation, the publisher, the carrier of the message did not consider the psychological emotions and pain on the children involved, they are only out for revenge, this man IF all is true he has chosen his path of doom but don’t let us believe all this by letting it sink into us but let it be a lesson for every sinner who have hidden sin but come out smiling in judgement. Let us train our children to be the kind of wife and husband we want to see in our society.
    The dead is gone but the living suffer more pain than death. In this situation the children suffers more than the parent. God vengeance is mine. what did this teach us than people being abusive, judgmental about the things that was not verified or no nothing about. The name of the church was not give, anyone can call themselves a pastor. The father in the lord who advised or is he the same father in the lord who refused to do anything. [ Why did you also refuse to tell me the cause of your mother’s death? I know she died of cancer! Hmmmm I don’t understand this part, his mothers cancer has nothing to do with this issue ] If this woman really wrote this, it was in time of pain and think back. May God help us to live in peace with each other.

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    • You are right my brother, I agree with your comment. May God help us to be true Christ-like in our marriages and to the society

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      • I know her very well, the woman spends her early years in Akure, ondo stat, nigeria. My friend attended her burial, all u read are the truth and noting but the truth. may God save us all.

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  11. Let us hear Oti’s side of the story. If all these are true it is too bad for a man of God. What would he be preaching to his congregation?

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  12. This is a very disheartening marital life,i am emotional and grief as I write this as if I knew this woman.May her gentle soul rest in perfect peace in Jesus bossom.

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  13. iTS PAINFULL THIS SO CALL EVIL PASTOR BRAKE MY HOME WITH HIS SWEET MOUTH LIAR AND WOMANIZER I HAVE CUT HIM SEVERAL TIME. REST IN PEACE DOLAPO . AS FOR OTI LET GOD JUDGE HIM

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  14. o ma se o.Yetunde was my junior in secondary school and we all lived and grew up in the same town.I read her story and i wept bitterly.It is well with your soul and the consolation is you are resting well with Jesus.

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  15. If this man really treated his wife and children like this, he really needs the touch of God. Sis Yetunde rest in peace. May the blood of the Lamb be upon your children. They would be satisfied with long life and prosperity. They would be highly favoured. When they get to the age of getting married God will give them direction. Oti, I am not in a position to judge you but if this story is true it left me really heart broken as a mother and wife. Please seek the face of the Lord for forgiveness.

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  16. FOR REAL. THIS IS BABARIC AND SO SAD THAT A WOMAN CAN BE TREATED SO BADLY. GOD HAVE MERCY OOO. MAY YOU REST IN PEACE AND I PRAY GOD TO GIVE GRACE TO YOUR PARENTS AND CHILDREN TO BEAR THE LOSS.

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  17. May the good Lord be with your family left behind and may your gentle rest in peace. For Oti i pray that may the good LOrd torches your heart.

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  18. May your soul continue to rest in the Lord Yetunde. This is evil but its not surprising. People can really do wicked things when they give their hearts to the devil. I pray that God will guide your girls and help them to heal. As for Ronke Bal, pray nothing like this happens to you. You asked for proof, Yetunde gave enough…. all these happened in Ireland, so its even easier to google the names she left in her write-up. The establishments and institutions she mention: their GP, Olive in Hartstown, Their Child Protection Unit in Finglas, she worked at Anpost, she used to walk her girls to school from Ongar to Little Pace. What else do you want, the woman was in pain, so how much more articulate can one be under the pains of cancer. My mom died of cancer too so I know a little bit about it.

    It saddens me to read comments from most women when responding to othe women’s plight. Rather than sympathize, most women begin to attack their fellow women.

    I pray that God will give the girls wonderful people around them. Its better this story is out in the open so other women going through abusive relationships will learn. As for Yetunde’s daughters, it will be painful reading this, but in it all, they will hear their mom’s perspective and the words directly from her that she forgave her husband.

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    • It’s strange how love turns to hatred. Cancer cells definitely would go haywire in a psychologically unstable body. Who knows the real cause cos this man could have done more than we read? God will rest her soul and take control of the kid’s welfare. HE is the overall judge.

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  19. First & foremost, I will say thank you so much dear beloved YETUNDE for been brave & caring enough to warn, teach plus caution the living while you yourself has passed unto the Lords. I read your comments & those of all that felt your pain in-life while still here on earth, and all I will say is thank you so much YETUNDE for speaking to us
    from the DEAD. I pray that heaven allows you through Miracle to come guide your daughters either in spirit or in life. I invoke the law of David unto whomever that in any way contributed to all you suffered. Finally good bye & R.I.P dear friend for Thou ‘ll suffer no more.

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  20. I stumbled on this page while searching for an old school mate also known as Yetunde Olotu , back at OSUA . After i started with the first line , i just could not stop . But just like others , it is safer to listen to both sides of the story before making conclusions ! But then , i must confess that i felt the weight of her agony !As a christian , an husband and a father of 2 Brazillians , i think at least , Mr /Noble Oti Jagha , should please , take a serious look at her last wish ,as expressed on this page !As you can see , i have not judged anyone because i don´t even know these people !

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